‘What do you think I should do?’

‘What do you think I should do?’

If you want to hear a question that I’m asked a lot, it’s this one:

‘What do you think I should do?’

The answer has often been: ‘Well, how long’s a piece of string?’, though these days it’s also, ‘Pay me and I’ll make some suggestions’.

While I’m paid to write stuff, which I can do with a pen, or a stick, or even some glue and glitter if I had to, the main reason I’m paid is because of my intellectual property.

Nevertheless, it’s a question that people who pay for coaching almost always ask.

Here’s why it’s the wrong question:

It indicates that you’re not willing to think for yourself, but are instead looking for direction.

Getting direction from people is not always a bad idea. In fact, if you’ve been through the rounds of thinking, and pondering, and sleeping on stuff; if you’ve tried to capture that monkey on paper; if you’ve asked and asked and genuinely can’t come to a conclusion, then direction may be the only way you’ll move forwards.

The risk you face is hitting the ‘I don’t know’ wall, and then asking for direction immediately.

I’ve encountered coaching clients, and mentoring students, who believe that a coach is going to give them the answers.

A good coach will never do that.

They’ll never tell you what to do.

They’ll give you the tools to discover what to do, and then to decide using a robust decision-making matrix of your own making.

It takes longer, granted.

It’s also more painful.

And it’s scary, frustrating, and confronting to be faced with someone who gives you a blank wall instead of the map you were hoping for.

It’s in that scary void that you discover your way forwards, however.

What this means is that if you have a ‘business coach’ who just gives you templates and pushes you in a singular direction, then they’re not doing you any long-term favours. They’re giving you a system that they have identified, that they have maybe used themselves to some success, but they haven’t given you any means of finding your own way forwards.

So if you want the ability to write your own map, this is what you must do:

First, recognise that you want that ability.

Second, pick up a pen and start reflecting on your practise on paper.

Thirdly, sign up for content athlete coaching, which you can do at https://brutalpixie.aweb.page/content-athlete-coaching

~ Leticia “close your eyes and jump” Mooney

PS. I’ll gift you a copy of the 5-Minute Journal when you sign up.

Leticia Mooney

The Brutal Pixie is Leticia Mooney. Race: Eladrin, Class: Publisher. --- Leticia is Australia's foremost authority on publishing in a business context. She ghostwrites for, and advises, entrepreneurial individuals in the professional services.

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